Thursday, February 26, 2015

Money, Honey: Bills, Bills Bills: Utilities Edition

One of the first things you have to learn when you move out on your own is how to deal with your bills.  How do I make there be electricity here?  My roommates are awful at paying me back!  

Today we'll chit chat about the first of your sets of bills. Utilities.  You are also likely paying off loans, and if you drive or have your own health plan, insurance premiums.

You become responsible for utilities these when you move off campus or away from your parents.  Your electric, gas, oil, internet is typically what renters are dealing with.  You may be paying for trash removal in some cities.  Water/Sewage are utilities too but your landlord most likely handles those.  When you are apartment hunting, check what is included in the rent. When you move in, you call all your local utility companies and set things up with all your info, it takes about 15 minutes.  Watch out when you sign up for cable/internet because the great price is usually only for a year, after that they will raise it right up.  Then they will keep right on raising it.  We paid $65 for internet when we moved here, and the same package is up to $89 now.  

Each bill has to be in one person's name, and THIS MATTERS.  It can impact your credit score and you're legally responsible for those charges.  If your roommate forgets something and it's in your name, you're the one that's SOL so make sure you're dealing with everything under your name.  You can divide up this responsibility by having one person in charge of each, and settle the accounts once a month. At my place, I receive all the utilities because I'm the one who isn't moving in and out of the apartment all the time.  Each month I post the bills and the total that people owe me on a bulletin board and my roommates write me a check.  This system only works if you trust your roommates to pay you back, and you have the cash upfront to pay as bills come in.

Your first step to dealing with bills is trying to minimize them.  That means things like not getting HBO (or cable at all) keeping your place a little cooler in the winter and a little hotter in the summer, turning off the lights when you leave a room, all that stuff.  Bonus, saving money on your utilities is all about efficiency, so it's green.  Often, rates will rise as you use more.  So, the first however much of gas will be at one rate, but once you move into another bracket, you're paying a higher rate per unit.  So it pays off double to just wear a sweater. Or two.  It's like 10 degrees in Boston right now, I'm wearing two.  It's not a life of luxury, but remember that unless you're making the kind of money your parents make, you can't enjoy the same standard of living on your own as you did with them.  Plus, my habitat was built in 1905 so "drafty" is a way of life.  

Your next step is to pay them on time.  Every month.  Well before you get your power shut off you're going to rack up fees and maybe have your late payments reported to the folks who compile credit scores.  The old school get a bill in the mail and send a check in the mail works for the organized.  Checks and stamps are not expensive, but also not free.  Online pay is great, I recommend using it.  When you're setting it up, you can go thorough each companies website, and choose to pay month to month or set up autopay.  I recommend setting up bill pay through your bank instead.  That way everything is in one place, with only one password to remember.  Autopay gives you less to think about, but if you need to time payments with paychecks (no shame in that, especially during heating season!) you can also get an email when a bill comes in, bop on over to your banks website, check your balance and click "pay." Some banks offer incentives for signing up for bill pay, like that Extra 20 Checking.  For the record, I'm firmly on Team Credit Union.

If you have roommates you need to be serious about everyone paying their share, and paying it on time.  You may be best friends, but when it comes to rent and bills, you've entered a financial arrangement together.  If a roomie isn't pulling their weight don't let it slide even once, no matter how much you love each other.  Beyonce doesn't let scrubs run up her bills, and neither should you.


Wednesday, February 4, 2015

A Low Moment

I think we all have them.  Those moments where you are just so sure that you're not going to be able to do it.  It's simply not going to work out.  You just can't swing it, might as well throw in the towel, move back home and wait for mom or dad to make you some mac and cheese.  The jig is up. It is so obvious that you are a gigantic, adult shaped baby.

My latest meltdown was on my second consecutive snow day after #Snowpocalypse2015.  I was already stressing about the money I hadn't been making, and I headed to a meeting with a temp agency downtown.  So there I am, in heels and a dress, stomping thorough two and a half feet of snow up Beacon Hill.  As you may have guessed by my ominous foreshadowing, I did not have a lot of fun.  They told me some super helpful things I already knew like "Wow, you're almost a year out from graduation" and "The longer that gap in your resume gets...hiring managers don't like that.  It makes them think 'oh, she doesn't have initiative'" and "You're going to be going up against people who have maybe been working in an office for two years" and just a pinch of of "I mean...unless you want to be a nanny forever."  Ouch. Really hit the trifecta there, the only button they missed was "It really seems like you've been struggling with your weight lately."

Later that day, I sat in bed playing Jelly Splash on my phone (as you do) and I just could not get past one particular level.  I was stuck, playing this same dumb level over and over again and never quite beating it.  Are you following me, folks?  The Jelly Splash level was the same as my life.  So, natch I started to cry.  Just laying in my bed playing Jelly Splash with tears streaming down my face.  I don't want to be a nanny forever!  I graduated basically a million years ago and I haven't done anything that anyone in a position to hire me cares about.  I'll never be able to compete!  How do they expect anyone to clear all this grey slime with only 15 moves?  This went on for a while longer.  It was all very melodramatic.

What happened next?  I beat the Jelly Splash level.  I'm not kidding this is literally what happened.  So I thought "well if the Jelly Splash level is my life this has to be good right?  I mean, I know that eventually I'll beat the metaphorical Jelly Splash level of finding a first job."  Ridiculous? Yes.  But being too ridiculous to ignore is kind of my brand, so I decided not to ignore that tiny, reassuring thought.  And then I got myself together and applied for a whole ton of jobs, went on a series of amazing interviews and landed my dream job.  Just kidding, I got up, reheated some fried rice and watched Treehouse Masters.

But here's the thing: that's okay.  It's okay to have a meltdown, and it's okay to eat leftovers and watch TV after you do.  The next day I was proactive, I made an appointment at Career Services and kept applying to jobs.  But in that moment, I accepted the uncertainty without anxiety.  I took care of Julianna the person, and let Julianna the job searcher, Julianna the life improver, whatever, take a break until I felt better.  I felt terrible about myself, but instead of beating myself up and spending the entire night feeling awful, as I've done in the past, I made a conscious choice to be gentle with myself and deal with one moment at a time.   Pretty adult, if you ask me.